Letting go.

A lot of people tell survivors they must forgive their abuser especially if they were raised as a Christian but it is not about forgiveness  it is about letting go. This cannot happen until you have faced the pain that is stuck down inside from when the abuse happened and you were powerless to do anything about it.  I don't think that you should ever have to forgive the actions of the abuser as that says they were ok and they NEVER were.

Firstly though you need to let the pain out, the trauma out and the message of abuse out.
Secondly you need to break down the old foundations, the blue prints of your childhood laid down by the abuser.....This is very painful

Then it is time to rebuild a new foundation. One that you really believe in, one that your heart can follow. Then brick by brick build the house that was meant to be there all along (before it was stunted by the abuse). You have the pieces from the old one, just throw out the useless pieces, keep the good pieces and add some new pieces to make it better.

Follow your heart step by step

Rome was not built in a day.

Sending out love and healing,
Margie Thomas